January 30, 2011 by Beth Hess
So it’s not quite February, I know. But considering January is a long month and February a short one, it seemed like a good time to move on to Guidepost #2 in Brene’ Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection — Cultivating Self Compassion; Letting Go of Perfectionism.
On the journey to live a Wholeheartedly life, Perfectionism is a sneaky enemy. And, as Brown explains, it’s deadly because it causes us to focus on what other people think — or worse, what we THINK other people think. Which, of course, is never really in our control anyway.
So Brown describes herself as a “recovering perfectionist and an aspiring good-enoughist.” And that feels right to me, too. For the last several years, I have been working on being Ok being less than perfect by reminding myself that this, too, is about Grace. Self Grace. Self Compassion. The part of me that can say “Oh well, Beth. It’s not that big a deal,” and really feel that to be true.
And I am learning that it is so much easier to extend grace to other people than it is to myself.
So, in February 2011 I am going to focus on kinder self-talk and more self compassion — and I am open to learning more about God’s amazing grace by letting myself soak in it. For He, more than any other, knows the depth of my imperfection, and loves me nonetheless. Who am I to argue with His assessment?